Tomorrow’s the BIG DAY, and I’m not supposed to be posting anything right now. I’m on the biggest break I can stand to take from blogging at this point, but I wanted to share this small gem real quick with you.
I saw this article sometime before wedding preparations kicked into high gear, and it has been a literal lifeline for me during this time.
With advice from the alternative wedding guru Molly Rosen Guy, the article is titled “How To Plan The Coolest Possible Wedding”.
Here’s her advice:
On proposals: Erase the fantasy from your mind of having a proposal at all. Why not just have a conversation? And why don’t you be the one to bring it up?
On how to plan without being a bridezilla: Forget spreadsheets. Just start with the vibe and the vision that you want, and work from your authentic truth. You can create what you desire once you have the vision in your mind.
On wedding dresses: The mouthful is: doesn’t need to be white, doesn’t need to be fluffy, doesn’t need to be sexy, doesn’t need to be stuffy. It doesn’t even need to be a dress!
On dealing with body dysmorphia: Less exercise, less dieting, more self-love, more self-acceptance, more food, more fun, more friends.
On bridesmaids: I think there’s a line in the book that says, “Ask not what your bridesmaids can do for you, but what you can do for your bridesmaids.” Think about what an honor it is to have all these beautiful friends in your life and how you can be of service to them, and less about how it’s their job to answer to your every need.
On flowers: I think people get really overwhelmed when it comes to flowers because they start to think they need to be some sort of amateur horticulturalist or they need to be really schooled and versed in everything flower-related. You don’t—you don’t even really need to have flowers at your wedding. But, it is nice to have some sort of expression of life, whether or not it’s plants or herbs. But stay off Pinterest as much you can, and don’t get swayed by all the Instagram pics. Remember, it’s flowers, and it doesn’t have to turn into some pornographic display of Pinterest insanity.
On wedding ceremonies: Whether or not you’re going to City Hall and reciting your vows out of a book or writing your own vows, take your ceremony seriously. Whether or not it’s 10 seconds or an hour long, it is the thing that sort of cements your union to this person who you’re tying your infinity to. So take some time to think about what it means to you and how you want to express it to the other people who are there.
On the reception: Make sure everyone’s well-fed—hungry guests are cranky guests.
On the first year post-wedding: The first year of marriage can be a mind fuck, but stay the course.
Using this as a loose guide, I’ve actually managed to keep my head bolted on and hold things in perspective; this is not a stress fest, but a ceremony celebrating our union and love. It can be absolutely incredible fun, and our vision, what makes us US can and should 100% be our guiding force (helping to not get caught up in what a wedding ‘should’ look or feel like).
At the end of the road here today and ready to walk into this most blessed and special day, I can’t tell you enough how being who you are and letting that shine through, letting go of preconceived notions and enjoying the prep for this day is the greatest gift you can give yourself as a bride or groom.
I haven’t starved myself, I’ve been laughing with my friends, eating my favorite foods, and making time for hikes and sunshine. It hasn’t been all roses and peaches, but it has taught me that the happiest brides (and people!) are the ones who put self-love and care of their basic needs as their top and foremost priorities.
Stay happy, stay loving, stay chill!
Much love and blessings to all Xx